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Notes from Arnina - the unspoken conversation

As a child/person I want to have a place where I can believe I can fully be me. I want to be trusted.

Eliminate guilt: patriarchy use it against ourselves as if guilt were the only way to create a change - and guess what, it never works. Instead of that, we need three things: acknowledgement, empathy and vulnerable share.

The reason why We don't acknowledge is because we feel guilty . How can I acknowledge if I feel guilty? We aknowledge by Seeing the impact I had in your life. Just this.

"I am sorry I was not there the way you needed it"

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When a child wants to be seen as he is, without the oppression of the ways he should be and bla bla bla...

Then the need of relax in this case is a deep thing: to relax from the domination of all the shoulds. If he knew how, the child would ask: what is your flexibility in giving me that space? Can you at least just acknowledge my needs? 

He might not know what togetherness is/means for you. You can invite to explore the idea of togetherness. Can you tell them why is important for you they contribute or do at least one thing? 

What is life me calling to bring, fresh, very different? What is alive in me, what am I longing for? Fun together, relaxation together...

You can also aknowledge the loss of trust between you: "I see you have lost trust in me and I acknowledge it" (saying with sadness, not with guilt: only then something new is born).